Hi! It’s been a while since I last sat and wrote a blog post. To be honest I just haven’t felt like writing until now. Today is #TimeToTalk Day so that’s what I’m going to do. Today is a chance for us all to be more open about our mental health. Mental health is not talked about or understood enough. It’s hard for people to understand mental health issues if they haven’t been through it themselves. This is exactly what I was like until I went through it myself. I didn’t understand, I was even scared of it. How do I talk to someone with mental health issues?
At the end of last year I had a bad time with my mental health. It started with me not being able to sleep properly which gave me really bad anxiety and I ended up back on medication. I won’t go into loads of detail but it was awful. Not being able to sleep is a big trigger for me and I knew it was linked to when it happened the first time when Amelia was 4/5 months old.
I decided that medication alone wasn’t going to sort this out and I started therapy. I decided to go to private therapy as I couldn’t wait for the NHS. Unfortunately mental health help on the NHS is not great. The waiting lists are long and when I went to the doctors, medication was all I was offered. Hopefully this will change as not everyone is in the position to have private therapy. The therapist was amazing and helped to really calm my anxiety down and gave me some coping mechanisms for when I couldn’t sleep. Although I haven’t felt like blogging I have found that writing down my thoughts has really helped, especially if I’ve had a bad nights sleep. I’m doing quite well now. I’m reducing my medication slowly and putting into practice the tools the therapist gave me. I really don’t think medication alone would have helped me in the long run, I had things that I needed to get sorted out.
Having people around you that care, listen and look after you is so important when you’re struggling. Luckily I have that support network but many don’t or think they don’t because they haven’t talked to people close to them. I can’t emphasis enough how much talking helps. If you think someone may be struggling, ask them how they are, offer to listen or just be a shoulder to cry on. If you’re struggling, as hard as it might be, try and reach out to someone you know will listen. Take each day at a time and remember that things can and will get better.